Updated: Dec 9, 2021
Do you wish to become a confident woman and achieve your dreams?
Maybe you have big goals such as traveling around the world, having a loving romantic relationship, starting your own business, increasing your earnings, or maybe even be a speaker at TEDtalk.
All of your dreams are precious, and you are capable of turning your dreams into a reality if you believe in yourself and take action.
Most people wish their dreams could come true in an instant, however, what most people don’t know about turning dreams into reality is really about becoming the best version of themselves in order to manifest people and opportunities into their life.
According to the Law of Attraction, you attract people and events that have similar vibrations as you. This means you’ll need to elevate your vibrations through thoughts in order to manifest great things.
To become more confident and reach your potential, you need winning habits that can help build your strength, resilience, discipline, and character.
Without setting positive habits in place, we will likely have self-sabotage behaviors and revert back to old patterns that do not help us in any way.
I used to be the timid, shy girl who didn’t dare to dream big, or go after things I want. The feeling of lack of self-worth and questioning myself with things such as “Am I not good enough?” eroded me from the inside and prevented me from reaching greater things or creating/attracting relationships that helped me grow.
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It wasn’t until I acknowledged that I am the only one who can change my life, I started to go out of my comfort zone and try to connect to empowering women who are living the dream lifestyle I wish to have.
Of all the tips and stories that are shared among our conversations, the most important lesson I learned from these confident, empowering women is that the secret to success lies in our everyday habits.
As quoted by James Clear, “Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. No single instance will transform your beliefs, but as the votes build up, so does the evidence of your new identity.”
No one in the history of mankind can create success & greatness without working on themselves. Success is an inside job and ALL WOMEN have the potential to be a high-value woman and achieve our own version of greatness.
Now let’s go over some top winning habits of confident women so you can become the best version of yourself and reach your potential.
Yes, we all know exercise helps us stay in shape, however, the benefits of exercising our body goes beyond just having a good physical appearance. Executive editor of the Harvard Health Publishing website, Heidi Godman, says that a study from the University of British Columbia shows that aerobic exercise that makes you sweat can help you increase your brain hippocampus, which is the area for verbal memory and learning.
Exercise also helps improve sleep, elevate your mood, and minimize negative moods such as depression and anxiety.
By implementing exercise into your daily routine for as little as 15 minutes, such as high-intensity interval training (HIIT), you can stay in shape and build your confidence.
2. Self Care
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Within all of us, there is masculine and feminine energy. Masculine energy is all about goal setting, planning, strategy, and dominating. On the other hand, feminine energy is about connection, softness, understanding, nurturing, and support.2
In the past, our society focused mainly on masculine energy and less on feminine energy. We adapt to the mindset that depreciates emotions and think empathy is weak. This creates a lot of unhealthy destructive behavior and violence in the world, therefore, we need to have more self-care and introversion to practice kindness, empathy, and compassion.
Without practicing self-care, we will likely only focus on using the mind on doing and not allowing our body and mind to rest, receive, and connect. It also means we are preventing ourselves from tapping into our great power of intuition.
To implement self-care as your winning habit, you can include activities such as deep breathing, meditation, journaling, creating a skincare routine, finding support groups, and doing something that encourages your creativity, such as creative projects or gardening.
3. Quality Sleep
Do you know what’s the most valued activity for successful people and high performing leaders? Quality sleep.
From Tim Ferris to Oprah Winfrey, all top leaders, entrepreneurs, and millionaires know that sleep is what helps our brain stay healthy. With a healthy mind, we can think and perform better, and be more creative.3
In the past, we may have been taught that we need to sacrifice sleep in order to prove that harder and longer work is what is needed in order to reach success. However, sleep deprivation is one of the leading causes of many mental illnesses. In fact, lack of sleep increases stress, anxiety, brain fog and may even cause trigger episodes.4
To have quality sleep, it’s best to have an evening routine in place with good habits, such as:
Drinking chamomile tea
Reflecting upon your day
Preparing for the following day
Turning off all sources of blue light (TV, cellphones, and laptops) 1 hour before bedtime
Switching off lights and relaxing around candlelight
Relaxing in a hot bath
By having an evening routine that helps you relax, you allow your body and mind to slowly calm down with less stimulating things. This helps decrease insomnia, anxiety, and depression, which improves your quality of sleep and mental health.
With a good night’s sleep, you will likely wake up refreshed, be in a good mood, and feel ready to start your day.
4. Invest in Learning
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One of the most important winning habits of confident women is to always seek growth and learning. This is not just about learning a new language or skill, this also includes adapting to a growth mindset to overcome all life challenges.
As quoted by Carol S. Dweck, the author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, “True self-confidence is “the courage to be open—to welcome change and new ideas regardless of their source.” Real self-confidence is not reflected in a title, an expensive suit, a fancy car, or a series of acquisitions. It is reflected in your mindset: your readiness to grow.”
Without a growth mindset, we close ourselves off to our own potential for greater possibilities. We may fall into mediocrity, which can result in an unfulfilling lifestyle that brings a lot of unhappiness, self-loathing, and maybe even depression.
To implement the winning habits of learning, you can read at least 2 non-fiction books a month, write morning pages, as recommended by Julia Cameron, learn some new skills to improve your public speaking, leadership, and creative problem-solving skills. It’s also a good idea to learn about finances and investing in taking control of your finances. Lastly, it’s also a good idea to join groups that inspire growth, such as the Masterminds group, Toastmasters, or any other group that helps you connect with other people who also want to grow.
By investing in learning, you add value to yourself, and open your mindset for greater possibilities.
5. Practice Gratitude
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Last but not least, practicing gratitude is the key to enjoying fulfillment in life. We may often see picture-perfect lifestyles on social media, but what we really need to do is to stay grounded and appreciate what we already have, and stop comparing ourselves to other people.
By showing gratitude, you are being mindful of everything you have and living in the present moment. This allows you to let go of any anger or depression from living in the past or anxiety or worries about the future.
With gratitude, you raise your vibration higher and allow yourself to embrace the love and support from the Universe. Also, when you feel abundant and grateful, you naturally attract more things and people to appreciate. It’s a positive upward spiral that can greatly improve your confidence and well-being.
Now, even if we learn all these winning habits, it’s of no use if we just read this article and not take action to actually do the work, because we all know bad habits are incredibly hard to break.
I’ve tried to adapt to winning habits myself but often find myself falling back to old patterns of negative thoughts and self-sabotaging behaviors. Perhaps you’re going through the same things and want to change your life. I totally get your pain.
To adapt to winning habits, it’s not just about going cold turkey and shutting down bad habits altogether. When bad habits are hardwired in our brain, it becomes very similar to alcoholics or drug addicts who try to quit their addictions but often fall back to old destructive patterns.5
The key to adapting to winning habits is about the mindset.
If you want to learn more about actually adapting to these winning habits of confident women in your lifestyle, I highly recommend you watch my video, How to Develop Good Habits and Achieve Your Goal on YouTube.
From there, you will learn the scientific explanation on why it’s hard for us to break bad habits and some useful resources and tips to help you reprogram your mind to achieve your dreams.
Remember, you are not alone in your journey to becoming the best version of yourself and that’s why I created a platform to help you spark your inner magic.
We need more confident women in this world to achieve their wildest dreams, so I hope you are brave enough to take action and start changing your life.
To your success,
Godman, H. (2014, April 10). Regular exercise changes the brain to improve memory, thinking skills. Harvard Health. Retrieved September 14, 2021, from https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/regular-exercise-changes-brain-improve-memory-thinking-skills-201404097110.
Pinkney, A. (2018, March 19). The power of feminine - B. well: Live Consciously. B. Well Coach. Retrieved September 14, 2021, from https://www.bwellcoach.com/blog/2018/3/18/the-power-of-feminine.
Fry, A. (2021, January 8). Healthy sleep: What is it and are you getting it? Sleep Foundation. Retrieved September 14, 2021, from https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-hygiene/what-is-healthy-sleep.
Gilpin, R. (2021, August 16). Sleep deprivation psychosis & mental illnesses - treatment options. Sleep Advisor. Retrieved September 15, 2021, from https://www.sleepadvisor.org/sleep-deprivation-psychosis/.
Gold, M. (2020, March 14). Why are habits so hard to break? APF. Retrieved September 14, 2021, from https://www.addictionpolicy.org/post/why-are-habits-so-hard-to-break.